Importance of a Christian Mentor
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled” (Titus 2:3–5 ESV).
Alright, ladies, let’s get real. The world is loud. It’s chaotic. And if social media is anything to go by, it seems like everyone is either screaming about self-love, crying over “situationships,” or pretending their perfectly curated life isn’t crumbling behind the scenes. Here’s the problem: Nobody’s teaching you—the younger generation—how to live well. That’s where you come in—but not without help.
The Young Woman’s Role
Paul’s words in Titus 2 aren’t just for the older women to step up; they’re for you—the younger women—to step in. You’ve got a role to play in this story, and it starts with intentionally seeking the mentors you need to grow into the kind of woman God is calling you to be.
Spoiler alert: That woman doesn’t emerge by accident. She emerges because she’s willing to learn, grow, and follow the wisdom of women who have already walked the road she’s on.
The Help of a Godly Mentor
What sorts of things can having a mentor help with? Developing attributes of a godly woman, forming a godly perspective on marriage, keeping your faith in a secular world, practicing hospitality, parenting in the modern world, honing Biblical femininity, and SO much more.
How to Find a Christian Mentor
Now, I know the idea of seeking out a mentor can sound a little intimidating. What are you supposed to do? Walk up to a seasoned woman at church and say, “Hi, please teach me how not to ruin my life?” Honestly? Kind of, yes. That’s exactly what you need to do. It takes faith to step out and make moves. At the end of the day, older women are seeking mentees, too. We have spent years learning from mistakes we’ve made and lessons we’ve encountered. And what greater gift than to pass it on to the next generation, to help your lives be a little bit easier?
Make connections. Introduce yourself to others. Join women’s groups in your church, particularly ones that bring together different generations. Pray that the Lord would lead you to meet women who can pour into your life and help guide and teach you as you step into each new chapter.
Because here’s the truth: Wisdom doesn’t just fall into your lap. You have to go after it. And when you do, you’ll discover that God has equipped His church with everything you need to become the woman He’s calling you to be. Whatever you need—whoever you need—don’t be afraid to ask. Get out of your comfort zone and do all you can to grow into the woman God made you to be!
So what are you waiting for? Let’s get to work.
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Cathe Laurie is the founder and director of the Virtue women’s ministry. She is also a featured speaker on The Virtue Podcast, at Harvest events, and the author of As I See It. You can find her weekly articles here on harvest.org.
