Divorce Can SAVE Lives - The DV Walking Wounded
SOURCE: http://www.walterslawwv.com/
I post this ALREADY knowing that this is going to get me backlash. As a Christian person, I don’t believe that divorce is the answer. I know how much work has to be put into marriage and intimate relationships. It’s SO much work. Everyday. I know this. The problem with my former marriage is that I was putting in ALL the work. I was married to a narcissist. He was cruel to me and my children. Someone was going to die and that someone was nearly me. I had to divorce him. I would have died if I’d stayed and taken the advice of my Priest. I would have been dead, unable to care for my children and their father would have gone to prison for my murder. It was inevitable, so I had to change that narrative. It didn’t matter how much I’d loved him and put in the work to make the marriage work…that contract had been broken so many times, that I had to put an end to it. So I did.
I believe that divorce is necessary in domestic abuse situations. Period. Regardless of what religious leaders say. Don’t be too hard on these leaders, they’re duped. The wolf puts on his lamb mask and cries about s/he being the victim. Just, hear me out. Know your worth and know that the Lord thinks you’re important…He is revealing these glimpses for you to notice and move forward on. He made you smart and strong. He will lift you and help you get through it! Look up this passage, in the Bible:
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?”
– KJV Bible, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
An article that I read on Crosswalk.com states the summation of this passage, perfectly:
“Being unequally yoked means that the two oxen are not equal in strength – one being weaker. When oxen are not equally yoked, they can not complete a task together well. Using this imagery, Christians cannot be partnered with unbelievers or they will not be able to live out the Christian life that God wants for them.”
– SOURCE: https://www.crosswalk.com/family/singles/why-being-unequally-yoked-is-more-dangerous-than-you-think.html
So, this brings me to my point and the crux of this article. When I was “stuck” in active abuse, I constantly ask God for signs, which he constantly gave me but I didn’t “see.” Unbelievers can include narcissists. They are not partners in the relationship/marriage. They are misrepresenting themselves as wolves in sheep’s clothing.
I was perusing Facebook the other day and saw the above posting from a real law firm and was taken aback. WOW! I thought. This. THIS was the sign “victim me” was looking for! What a gift!
I am amazed and delighted that this law firm would offer such a gift, as divorces can be VERY messy and expensive. The abusive party will try to scare you and draw it out, especially if there are kids involved. Also, you HAVE to have an attorney in the state where you reside and the divorce is being filed for. Have to, not optional. Sorry. (NOTE: This law firm is in West Virginia, USA). That’s IF you choose to have representation. If you can’t afford it, get with your local clerks office on helping you to petition the court and file for an attorney to be provided for you. Local Bar Associations usually DO have people that do pro bono work on a limited scale, as Legal Aid organizations are usually back logged.
I hope other law firms follow this one’s example, in all the states in the union. I hope international law firms take notice too! If it’s a law firm that deals in divorce, they already know about DV and how much of a toll it can take. What a gift! What a life saving gift! They are literally saving two lives. I just hope they advise the victim of the dangers yet to come, direct her to a DV advocate, and urge her to file an EPO or restraining order if needed. They’d be saving the physical life of the victim and of the abuser (although they won’t think so). Abusers don’t see how close they came to going to prison, because they simply think they are smarter than everyone else — even when they’ve been caught, turning them into true victims in their own eyes.
I love the hubris in the fact that it’s a “Valentine’s Day” contest. I think that is PERFECT. Love yourself more! Get a Divorce! Wow us with the incredibly insane reason we should pick YOU! Get ready, Walters Law Firm…there are INSANE stories of survival that you could help intervene with. You will also propel victims to go ahead and pursue a divorce, even if they don’t win, which will gain you more clients — more clients will gain freedom! Bravo! Help those forlorn folk! You all are my Valentine’s Day heroes, truly!
