8 Cute Signs She’s Afraid Of Losing You - Olubunmi Mabel
“Losing someone you love is like losing a part of yourself.”
I know that that statement might sound a bit dramatic, but in the world of love and relationships, it’s quite the reality, more common than we think.
And trust me, I’m not talking about romantic books or movies; I’m talking about real life.
When someone truly values you, there’s often an underlying fear that they could lose you, and this vulnerability can show up in the most adorable or sometimes scary ways.
While she might not come out and say, “I’m afraid of losing you,” her actions could be quietly echoing the thought.
What’s fascinating is how these signs often go unnoticed until you pay closer attention.
She may even drop subtle hints, hoping you’ll notice just how much she cares, but you’ve been blind.
Allow me to be your ophthalmologist today and heal you of that blindness, sir.
How do you know if her heart is speaking through these gentle actions?
Let’s look at some of the cutest signs that she’s afraid of losing you.
8 Cute Signs She’s Afraid of Losing You
1. She’s protective of you especially around other women
As a veterinarian rich in the knowledge of animal health and behavior, I’m aware that certain animals tend to act territorially.
When they find a suitable mate, they make sure to hang around that mate, warding off any other potential suitor who may want to overtake them and hijack their love interest.
Animals aren’t the only ones who do this; humans do it too.
And before you say “Only an insecure woman would do that”, let me immediately say you’re wrong.
Even the most confident woman might feel a pang of insecurity if she thinks she could lose a man she cherishes.
If she becomes a little more watchful or curious when other women are around, it might be her way of subtly expressing her fear of losing you.
When she watches you talk to a mutual friend, who might happen to be quite charming, she may not openly admit it, but somewhere within, she can’t help but wonder if you might be interested in that person, especially if you’re acting too comfortable around them.
This subtle worry isn’t unusual; it comes from her deep love and desire to keep him close.
For some women, it’s not subtle at all; they’re more loud about it.
She may go out of her way to safeguard what you two have by setting boundaries with people who could threaten your bond or by fiercely defending you before others.
Her protectiveness is her way of safeguarding the relationship from anything that might jeopardize it.
She sees evil looming and immediately stops it because she doesn’t want to lose you.
2. She always seeks reassurance
If she frequently seeks reassurance from you about how you feel about her, you won’t be wrong to infer that she’s afraid of losing you.
When a woman values her relationship, she might frequently seek little reaffirmations to feel secure.
I see so many funny reels on Instagram about women asking their men questions like, “Would you love me if I were a worm?”
The videos are usually so funny, but what’s even more interesting are the comments under them, with many women affirming that they do it in their relationships, too, and men saying their women do it.
That question, funny as it may sound, has an undertone of seeking reassurance.
She wants to know that you love her no matter what.
She could also ask questions like, “Do you still feel the same way about me?” or “Are we good?”
Of course, if it’s excessively done, then there’s a deeper problem (she’s probably insecure or doesn’t trust you), but when it’s done occasionally, it’s not unusual.
It just shows that she’s anxious about the possibility of you both drifting apart.
She may seek this reassurance at key moments, such as after an argument.
She’s not fishing for compliments; she just needs that extra bit of confirmation that her relationship is on solid ground.
These questions reveal that she doesn’t want to be without you.
3. She’s quick to apologize
Saying “I’m sorry” is one thing that helps save a lot of relationships, even the ones that shouldn’t be saved.
I mean, some men abuse their women and apologize only to repeat it, making the woman remain in the relationship when, in fact, she should walk away, but I digress.
The words “I am sorry” seem small, but they’re powerful, especially when they come from a genuine heart.
Not everyone has the humility and calmness enough to apologize so if she’s always the first to say she’s sorry or trying to smooth things over after a fight, it’s a strong indicator she fears losing you.
She’s more interested in restoring peace than holding onto her pride.
4. She sacrifices for you
You only go out of your way to do stuff for people when they mean something to you.
I mean, you can do nice stuff and even make sacrifices for people who don’t necessarily mean much to you or people you don’t even know just out of your good heart.
That’s valid, I also do it; going out of my way to help people I barely even know.
But some levels of sacrifice show commitment—you just know that for someone to make such sacrifices for you, they have to cherish you a lot.
If a woman constantly puts in the effort to see you smile and does stuff she isn’t necessarily interested in just to make you happy, like working on things you’ve mentioned in the past just so you like the version of her you’re seeing, it’s a strong sign that she values you a lot.
She may surprise you with your favorite snacks, plan fun outings, use the Cologne you prefer, or listen attentively when you need to vent.
When someone is willing to go out of their comfort zone for your happiness, they’re showing that they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you close.
Some compromises and change aren’t easy, and her willingness to adapt is proof of how much she values you and wants you to be comfortable in her life.
5. She always wants to look good for you
Looking good is good business, but it’s not always easy.
There are times I just want to leave my hair unattended and look homeless because it’s comfortable.
But when I remember how happy my husband usually is whenever I make new hair and keep my hair neat, I make the effort to go to the salon.
A woman taking the time to look her best whenever she’s around you shows that she cares about keeping you attracted to her.
This could mean wearing your favorite color or trying a new hairstyle just to see if you notice.
It’s beyond just the outfit or the color of her nails; it’s her way of showing you that she plans to keep the spark alive and keep your eyes on her.
6. She tries to win your family and friends’ hearts
Many ladies believe that if they’re able to win their way into the hearts of a man’s closest people, his friends and family, they’ve secured their place in his life.
And they’re not necessarily wrong.
In Nigeria, when a man’s friends and family recognize his girlfriend and want to show that they approve of her, they call her “Our wife,” signifying that she has their full support, and they’ll ensure that the man doesn’t look at another girl.
Although this can be a scam sometimes, there have been stories of ladies who earned the “Our wife” tag yet still ended up being dumped.
In some worse stories, the people chanting “Our wife” were well aware that the man in question had other women in his life, yet they kept leading the poor girlfriend on.
But those are the bad stories.
Some good ones exist, where family and friends approve of the relationship, making it more secure.
This is one reason why some girls do their best to make a good impression on a guy’s friends and family.
If she goes out of her way to connect with the people you care about, it’s because she’s invested in making her place in your life.
She wants to be remembered and valued by the people close to you, so she does intentional things to remain in their good books.
7. She’s romantic and thoughtful
If you’re not sure if she’s afraid of losing you, it’s probably because she’s not.
Because if a woman doesn’t want you out of her life, her actions will tell you.
You will enjoy sweet, romantic, and thoughtful expressions that reveal her heart.
It could be random, unexpected, sweet text messages or calls, surprises with gifts, making an effort to be part of the things that matter to you, listening to you talk about your day, or simply being there for you in difficult times.
None of the things I just mentioned should sound alien to anyone who is in a relationship with someone who loves them.
These simple expressions of love show that she doesn’t want a time to come when you’re not in her life.
8. She talks a lot about your future together
If she’s dreaming out loud about the future—vacations, future homes, or holiday traditions—it’s because she sees you as part of her life for the long haul.
She might also ask about where you see the relationship heading or talk about things she hopes to experience with you.
Talking about the future with you in it shows she’s thinking ahead and values what you have.
She doesn’t imagine her future without you in it.
Her future talk is a telltale sign that she’s in it for a long time and not just a good time, and she fears a life without you.
If you’ve noticed any of these signs, you need to know that that woman wants your union to last.
Forgive my bias, but many times, men don’t figure these things out immediately.
But I’ve spelled it out for you now; you don’t have to thank me.
Recognize the signs for what they are and let them help you make a decision and appreciate the woman in your life.
