10 Things Women Confess Only To Their Closest Friends - Olubunmi Mabel
“Let me tell you something, but you have to promise not to judge me.”
Every woman has said this line at least once in her life, usually while clutching her phone or leaning over a cup of coffee with her best friend.
There’s something magical about having that one person who knows the unfiltered, uncensored version of you, the thoughts you wouldn’t dare share with anyone else.
But why do women spill these secret truths only to their closest friends?
Because some confessions are too hilarious, too embarrassing, or just too real to share with the world.
My sister Tolu, for example.
She spent an hour one night analyzing whether her crush’s text “What’s up?” had a hidden romantic meaning.
After dissecting it from every possible angle, she called her bestie to whisper, “Do you think he’s secretly in love with me, or am I losing it?”
Her friend, of course, patiently listened and laughed before delivering the harsh truth: “Girl, he probably sent that to ten other people.”
These conversations aren’t just about spilling secrets; they’re a form of therapy.
Whether it’s confessing that you sometimes stalk your ex’s Instagram or admitting that you keep a stash of chocolate hidden from your kids, sharing these “for your ears only” truths with a trusted friend keeps life interesting.
But let’s face it, not all confessions are innocent.
Some are downright scandalous.
Like when I heard a woman at the salon tell her friend, “I bought those shoes I swore I wouldn’t buy, and now I have to sneak them into the house before my husband notices!”
Moments like these remind us that even the most put-together women have their secrets, and that’s what makes life interesting.
So, what are these things women only confess to their closest friends?
1. Their crush on a guy especially an unexpected guy
Every woman has had a surprising crush, whether on a co-worker, a fictional character, or a celebrity no one else finds attractive.
For some women, it could be their much older professor.
I once heard a lady tell her friend about how she found their professor attractive.
When her friend expressed her shock because she couldn’t find anything attractive in the man, she defended herself by saying it wasn’t his looks; it was the way he explained history like it was the most exciting story ever!
You’d think this only happened to school girls, but that’s a lie.
Women of different ages experience this.
The thing is that not every woman is bold enough to shoot her shot, but at least she can tell her friend about it.
2. Overthinking a text message
“Do you think he meant this or that?”
Overthinking a simple text is a classic confession, and women have been doing it for years.
It could be a crush’s mysterious reply or a boss’s vague email, but women often dissect every word and punctuation mark with their closest friends.
A woman can spend an hour analyzing the phrase, “Let’s catch up soon,” sent by her ex.
Different questions will run through her mind.
Was he being polite?
Or was he hoping to rekindle something?
The only person who will have the patience to untangle the possibilities with her while providing much-needed comic relief is her best friend.
These overthinking sessions aren’t just about the text message; they’re a reflection of how she feels.
And who better to help unpack those feelings than a trusted friend who knows your heart almost as well as you do?
3. That they miss their ex
Even the happiest women occasionally wonder, “What if?”
Whether triggered by an old photo or a random memory, missing an ex is something only the closest friends hear about.
A woman could admit, “I kind of miss how he used to make me laugh,” and her best friend would quickly remind her why they had broken up in the first place.
“Girl, he may have been funny, but don’t forget he never remembered your birthday, and he always gaslit you!”
That’s another beautiful thing about having sensible friends; they can serve as a voice of reason in moments like this.
Also, this kind of honesty is why best friends are irreplaceable; they listen without judgment and always bring you back to reality.
4. Heartbreak
When a woman is heartbroken, she may not share it with the world, but her best friend will be told.
Heartbreaks are not things people should keep to themselves.
Yes, it’s a vulnerable moment, and you shouldn’t tell just anybody, but that’s where best friends come in.
If a woman has genuine friends that she trusts, even if no one else knows about the breakfast she was served, her bestie will.
Heartbreaks leave emotional scars, and women often pour out these feelings to their closest friends.
Sharing this pain can make it less painful sometimes, and it strengthens friendships.
5. Guilty pleasures
From binge-watching reality TV to obsessively following a celebrity on Instagram, guilty pleasures are common confessions.
My friend once sheepishly admitted, “I’ve watched every season of The Bachelor twice. Don’t judge me!”
I judged her!
Of course, I’m just kidding. I laughed about it and asked her to lend me her Netflix password so I could watch it too.
For some women, it’s the location of their secret stash of chocolates.
Some mums hide cookies, cereals, and sweets for themselves away from their children just so they can devour them when the kids are out.
Even the women who have resolved to let go of eating junk more than ten times in one year.
They may not openly tell everyone that they have broken this resolution, but they will tell their bestie.
Sharing these indulgences makes them even more enjoyable.
And best friends may not cheer them up all the time.
Sometimes, they may stand as accountability partners, encouraging them to make better food choices, but they definitely will not judge or condemn them.
6. Wild dreams
You know, those imaginations and aspirations that you have seem almost impossible, but everyone has them.
It costs zero dollars to dream, so everyone dreams, but they don’t share it with everyone.
When women have such wild dreams and aspirations, they share them with their closest friends, no matter how far-fetched they seem.
It could be a huge dream, like becoming the first female president in her country, or a smaller one, like becoming an author.
They may not be confident enough to share it with the world, at least not yet.
But they will tell their best friends.
7. Awkward moments
Everyone has those cringe-worthy moments they’d rather forget—except when telling their best friend.
Some things’ll happen, and you just hope no one else gets to know about it.
No one but your bestie.
Your bestie is allowed to know because they’ll laugh it over with you and make you feel better or worse about it in a funny way.
It could be an awkward moment with your boss, an interesting or embarrassing parenting fail or mom moment, weird Google searches, or a wardrobe malfunction.
Nothing is off-limits.
You can share these awkward moments with them because you trust them, but they’re also reminders that everyone has cringe-worthy moments and that no one is perfect.
Your best friends can laugh with you, not at you, to make the situation more interesting.
8. Her biggest fears
Everyone has to deal with some form of fear or another at some point.
Women do too.
Whether it’s a fear of failure, rejection, or spiders, they share their anxieties with those they trust most.
I once had a speaking engagement but was terrified of public speaking.
My hands shook, and I forgot my words.
I told my then-flatmate, who was my best friend at the time.
And this girl helped me practice, offering encouragement every step of the way.
The few times that impostor syndrome came and tried to kick my ass, my friend was there to gas me up.
Even the most confident women sometimes feel like they don’t belong or aren’t deserving of their blessings.
Whether it’s a promotion at work or a new opportunity, those doubts creep in, and only a best friend hears about them.
They don’t just hear it; they speak confidence into you.
When you’re about to say, “Sometimes I wonder if I’m really good at my job or just lucky,” your friend is there to counter, “Are you kidding? You’ve earned everything you have. Stop doubting yourself!”
Moments like this are to be treasured because they show us that we’re not alone in our struggles; we have good people around us to uplift and encourage us.
9. Money issues
Many women confess their financial worries to their closest friends.
This is because a best friend will likely be able to relate more than any other person will.
She could be feeling unprepared for the future or just worried about an unexpected bill.
It could even be something vain like she hating that she has to choose between buying that dress she loves and saving for her trip.
Telling her friend might help her find a solution; perhaps her friend offers budgeting tips or even helps her find a sale.
But it might also not do anything; maybe she just needed a listening ear and emotional support.
10. Pet peeves about their partner
Even in the happiest relationships, women occasionally vent about their partners’ annoying habits.
It doesn’t mean they hate their partner or want to break up.
They just want to talk about his annoying behavior.
Maybe the man leaves breadcrumbs everywhere or flings his socks around like it’s trash.
Telling best friends about these things isn’t to vilify the partner but just for gist’s sake, to vent and probably get empathy.
The friend may help make light of the situation, adding her funny complaints about her husband.
These small talks are like cathartics that help women let go of everyday frustrations.
These secrets can be silly, serious, or somewhere in between, but they speak of the beautiful bond many women share with their closest friends.
They’re the moments that turn ordinary gists into lifelong sisterhood.
Hopefully, both parties will stay loyal to the bond shared.
